Sep 4, 2026 · Relationships · 2 min read
The problem with being a giver
How I became a matcher
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Lessons, experiments, and notes from the weekly newsletter.
Friends, family, and the people who shape us. 27 essays
Aug 28, 2026 · Relationships · 4 min read
What the US took from me this year
an essay on belonging
Aug 21, 2026 · Relationships · 3 min read
I have a problem
I judge people. I don't do that loudly, but it happens fast, almost automatically.
Jul 31, 2026 · Relationships · 2 min read
Versions of me
I had forgotten it all
Jun 12, 2026 · Relationships · 3 min read
11, not 2
The key to a lasting relationship
May 29, 2026 · Relationships · 4 min read
On losing adult friendships
and going first
May 15, 2026 · Relationships · 5 min read
The unseen cost of a dream
80 hours, 60 days
Apr 17, 2026 · Relationships · 14 min read
Filial Piety
An examination of the concept of filial piety as Confucius presents it in The Analects.
Feb 20, 2026 · Relationships · 2 min read
The duty to flourish
I was talking about dating with a friend recently, and we kept returning to a single idea: dating a winner.
Jan 9, 2026 · Relationships · 3 min read
On Unconditional Love
Have you ever told somebody that? I certainly have, and now I see how big a lie that has been.